There is no training, licensing, or credentialing for this.
This is going to be really difficult for both of us I'm sure- once you've taken a relationship to a romantic level it's often hard to go back to being just friends.
Selfishly I really want to continue dating him but I also really want him to be successful in his program.
In fact, the sponsor invited us to a party at his house. Some days I want to scream & just try to forget him....much easier said than done.
I think your BF is just young and a little unsure right now. "The idea that his sponsor would "discourage" him from dating is sort of why AA gets a bad rep.
They have a lot of stickies at the top of that forum that I found really helpful.
The idea that his sponsor would "discourage" him from dating is sort of why AA gets a bad rep. First, a sponsor is only some other AA member who has been in recovery a certain length of time.The only AA non-dating rule I know is the 13th step -- you are not supposed to get into a relationship with another alcoholic from your group during the first year.Also -- it is not a good idea to maintain friendships that take you into drinking/tempting situations.If he isn't in recovery, then you dodged a bullet You can go about making your life all you want it to be and perhaps go to some al-anon meetings during that time.The Friends and Family of Alcoholics forum gets a lot more action if you'd like to venture over there.I was told that if you are in a relationship going into recovery, try to stay in it, and if you are not in one, try not to get into one for the first year. All i can suggest is just tread carefully, and that recovery MUST come first before the relationship itself. Young fellas willing to follow their sponsor's advice will have a much better chance at a good recovery than those who want to do it the hard way. The prescription about relationships, as Tomsteve says, is not part of the AA program.