After spending a few days trying to adjust to the fact that the handsome co-leader of my small group was seven years my junior, I had just realized that he was actually eight years younger!A question I receive often is, "How did you make the decision to date and marry a younger guy?
"After we prayed, Travis took up the courage and said those exact words! "That's what I had been waiting for." Although many of the questions I receive are from women who are considering whether or not to date a younger man, many of the same principles apply to the decision-making process regardless of who's older.
(For the sake of this article, we'll define an age difference as five years or more.) Here are four things to consider: 1. Leah says one of her biggest concerns when considering a man 10 years younger was whether he had the maturity to understand her needs and take care of her.
Most of us don’t actively choose what we like or don’t like, our body chooses for us. If you’re making excuses for them, you are calling these adult women brainless fools who are unable to make their own decisions.
That in itself may be the most disempowering, anti-feminist view I can think of.
I guess it was because I'd heard two or three stories of the woman being seven years older, so I'd sort of decided that was the outer limit of age difference acceptability. (And I would hit 31 a month before his next birthday.) Feeling defeated, I sat at the small wooden table in Starbucks, where I was meeting Kevin for the first time since my startling discovery. In case you're wondering, I married that guy eight months later.
I don't know why this one year made such a difference to me.
Brad Pitt, Jon Hamm, George Clooney, Jude Law, Johnny Depp, the list goes on.
They would drop everything for an opportunity to be with one of those guys.
So I find it hilarious when I see women hate on older men for chasing younger girls when often find older men sexy. It’s easy to critique others for their desires but when we look at ourselves, we suddenly get a free pass. And so many women are fed up dealing with “immature boys” and prefer to date older guys. Did you consciously choose to like those qualities throughout your life? That’s why I think calling someone shallow for their physical preferences is ignorant.
Those guys tend to earn better wages and therefore be better providers. They’re more cultured and have more world experience. And thinking young women are sexy falls into that category — you have nothing to be ashamed of.
And they generally have more self-confidence as they know who they are. — When it comes to this subject, older men are painted as shallow horndogs manipulating younger women. But what about all the couples who fall into this category (including my parents) who are in love or married for decades? Are you saying these women are coerced and manipulated into being with these men?