Whatever the reason, it’s important for us to remain open-minded and non-judgmental.” What should you do if you decide the relationship is worth salvaging?
Experts recommend counseling to help both individuals address the situation, find forgiveness and move forward.
And as to why some women may want to stay after their partner fesses up?
Walfish says the reason may not be as simple as being in love.
We use them for work, play, shopping and when researching something like the possibility of hiring a private investigator. They send an e-mail to the “other” person, they look at websites about sexual performance, weight loss, online infidelity, how not to get caught, etc. In a growing number of cases, people are meeting and developing relationships online.
They are in chat rooms having online conversations, posting messages to discussion bulletin boards and visiting websites to meet people.
“If you settle for this kind of relationship, and don’t try to stop him, you can probably co-exist.
The reality today is that the computer has become an integrated part of most people’s life.
“It’s appealing to the person who has great difficulty being emotionally intimate, but who feels sexual compulsions, a lack of control over them, and a need to act them out,” she explains.
Psychologist Karen Sherman, who also agrees sexting counts as cheating because it crosses boundaries and challenges trust, says it’s actually a more serious issue than infidelity. “In my opinion, any issue can be worked on as long as the person is willing to admit that there’s a problem and do the work.
However, if the sexting continues, the decision of the relationship’s future lies with you.
“The only hope you have is if you give in and accept this kind of behavior as a part of your relationship,” says Atwood.
Instead, the betrayal could be an opportunity for you to empower yourself and evaluate whether the relationship is worth salvaging.